RCCG Sunday School TEACHER’s Manual 6 December 2020 Lesson 14 – Emotional Intelligence
TOPIC: Emotional Intelligence
OPENING PRAYER: Father, let your Spirit control my life. (Scroll down for RCCG Sunday School 6 December 2020 HYMN)
PREVIOUS KNOWLEDGE: Teacher should appreciate the students for the participation and performance in the first quarter of the Sunday school calendar.
MEMORY VERSE: “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.” – Proverbs 16:32
BIBLE PASSAGE: Galatians 5:13-18. KJV (RCCG Sunday School TEACHER’s Manual 6 December 2020)
13 For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.
14 For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
15 But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another.
16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.
18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.
‘Emotional intelligence’ is the concept of knowing our feelings, managing and expressing them appropriately. It is also the ability to skilfully recognise or gauge how others feel and modify our own behaviour depending on the situation at hand in order to live in harmony with them. It is obvious that our God is emotionally intelligent (Ps.78:38). His emotions are positive, holy, noble and appropriate. Since we are created “in the image of God”, then it means that, as we mature in Christ, our emotions should, in great measure, share His divine qualities with the help of the Holy Spirit.
LESSON AIM: To learn how to know, manage and express emotions.
TEACHING OBJECTIVES: At the end of this lesson, students should be able to:
a. Describe the term, emotional intelligence.
b. Classify emotions.
c. Understand how to manage emotions.
TEACHING PLAN: To achieve the above-stated objectives, teacher should:
– Allow the students to recite the memory verse, read the Bible passage, contribute to discussion, do class activities and assignment.
-Allow the Assistant Teacher see to the well-being of the class, mark attendance and assignment.
-Teach the lesson outlines, summarise, conclude, evaluate the lesson and give assignment.
TEXT REVIEW: Galatians 5:13-18.
A. Believers are:
I. Called to be free. -v13a.
ii. Warned not to………………v13b
iii. To ……………………………….v13c
B. All the law is fulfilled in one word:………..v14
C. Believers should put their emotions under control, else they will:
I. …………………………………….. v15a
II. …………………………………….. v15b
Emotions can be controlled if the believer:
I. …………………………………….. v16.
II. …………………………………….. v17.
III. …………………………………….. v18.
TEACHING METHOD: Lecture Teaching Method.
TIME MANAGEMENT: Teacher should apply two-lesson outlines teaching time.
LESSON OUTLINE 1: CLASSIFICATION OF EMOTIONS
We shall attempt to break down emotions into three classes for easy identification.
- Holy Emotions: These are emotions expressed by God such as compassion (Ps. 78:38), joy (Zeph. 3:17), jealousy (Exo. 20:5b) and holy indignation (Deut. 32:16).
Jesus, during His earthly ministry, also expressed some emotions (Matt. 9:36; 21:12).
Holy emotions can also accompany a believer’s life in the spirit in times of praise, worship and adoration (Eph. 5:19). They are not necessarily religious or pious emotions. They are good and beautiful (Phil. 4:8).
- Human Emotions: These are based on our human nature and situations.
a. Our Saviour and Lord, Jesus Christ expressed some natural human emotions during His time on earth, for instance:
He wept at the tomb of Lazarus (Jn.11:35).
He scattered and sent parking those trading in the temple of God (Matt.21:12-13)
He groaned in the spirit being troubled (Jn.11:33).
b. It is a feeling or an expression such as happiness, excitement, surprise, ecstasy, grief, disgust, embarrassment, pain, fear, sadness abandonment, sorrow, anxiety, stress, anguish and vulnerability.
c. For the Christian, they are temporary.
d. While some of these emotions may be bad, they are not evil or toxic if and when properly managed.
- Fleshly Emotions: a. These are toxic, poisonous and destructive emotions such as untamed anger, malice, envy, selfish ambition, carnality, bitterness, lusts, hatred, etc.
b. They are closed tied up with the works of the flesh and with evil deed (Gal.5:19-21)
c. Their outcome is spiritual death (Rom.8:6, 13; Gal.5:21b).
d. These emotions were not part of mankind at creation (Gen.1:31a).
e. Fleshly emotions constitute what Apostle Paul calls the ‘old man’ that put off and crucified (Rom.6:6; Eph.4:22).
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Students should sincerely mention one fleshly emotion they are trusting God to remove from their lives as individuals.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: MANAGING EMOTIONS
A. The concept of emotional intelligence is quite helpful in opening our understanding to how we can manage our emotions and relate better with others.
Here are some practical steps to take in order to be emotionally balanced.
-Self-awareness: identify and admit that you have issues with emotions and have a clear picture of how you appear to most people in order to make self improvements (2 Cor.13:5).
-Self-control: regulate your emotions by putting it under check so that it does not take you over (Prov.16:32; 29:11; Eccl.7:9).
-Self-motivation: regardless of the situation or circumstance, rather than being depressed, moody, sad or aggressive, try to encourage yourself and maintain a stable temper (1 Sam.30:6).
-Self-expression and empathy: You should always find an appropriate channel and time to politely express your feelings (Prov.15:1) and judge people less by seeing things from their points of view (Matt.7:1-5; 1Pet.3:8-9).
-Self/social-skill development: Develop the right level of rapport (relationship) with people you come across and be patient in your dealings with them (Prov.16:32, 18:24; Rom.12:18; 2Tim.2:24).
B. All the practical approaches mentioned above may not yield the expected result unless the believer yields himself first to the Holy Spirit who helps him/her respond differently to each of the three categories of emotion (Gal.5:16, 18).
- The Holy Spirit rejoices and assists us when we engage in holy responses.
- He produces them within us so they can justly be called “the fruit of the Spirit (Gal.5:22-23).
- The Holy Spirit comforts us when the human emotion such as grief overwhelms us (Jn.14:16).
- He helps us to break the grip of fleshly emotions such as hatred, lust and revenge.
- The Holy Spirit wars against such impulses so that we cannot fully give way to our worst desires (Gal.5:16-18).
- The Holy Spirit becomes the source of our intelligence when we take heed to His promptings.
CLASS ACTIVITY 2: Students should discuss how God has been able to help them to manage their emotions.
SUMMARY: It is important for every believer to understand the nature of the emotions being expressed and let the Holy Spirit take control.
CONCLUSION: The power to defeat deep and difficult emotions comes from God and involves the human spirit coming into contact with God’s Spirit.
EVALUATION: Teachers should ask the students to highlight the classes of emotions.
CLOSING PRAYER: Father, let my emotions be controlled by your Spirit.